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Teaching Tips & Tricks, Podcast Articles   |   Nov 20, 2016

5 of your trickiest teacher co-worker problems solved

By Angela Watson

Founder and Writer

5 of your trickiest teacher co-worker problems solved

By Angela Watson

Though each school has its own unique dynamics between teachers, I’ve discovered that there are a couple common threads between the typical dilemmas. Read on as I address the five of the most common–and most difficult–teacher co-worker problems.

Scenario 1: Your coworkers pop over on a daily basis to say, “So, what are we doing this afternoon?” and expect you to do all the lesson planning and preparation for them

I know some of you listening might find it hard to believe that this happens, but I’ve seen it many times!

First off, make sure your co-worker knows HOW to plan and find resources, and give him or her the opportunity to co-plan. We never want to start with the assumption that someone is being willfully lazy or uncooperative.

So, pick a day and time that you’ll be available to your coworkers. When they ask what you’re doing with your kids, say, “I’m doing an activity with ___ today. We can plan together for next week so you’ll know what I’m doing before the day of–do you want to come by room this afternoon and we can plan?”

The idea is that you’re creating boundaries around your time and announcing when you’ll be available to collaborate. You can also offer to divide up the work. Say, “Let’s create a shared drive where we can put our resources together and come up with a plan. One of us can plan for X and one of us can plan for Y.” Use Google Drive, Dropbox, or an online lesson planning tool like planbook.com to collaborate.

The idea here is turn the one-way requests into a true collaboration in which each of you is pulling his or her weight. If the team member isn’t very strong with lesson planning, you may even consider dividing up the work another way–for example, s/he could prep all the lesson materials for both classes.

However, these suggestions will only work for teachers who truly do want to collaborate and aren’t intending to just mooch off your hard work. You’ll be able to tell by their response to your suggestions for collaboration whether they have any desire to pull their own weight. Your colleague will either be super grateful for your help with planning (at which point you can point him/her toward other resources or divvy up the work so you’re not solely responsible for their plans) or will make an excuse because they don’t want to plan, and they want you to do the work for her.

If that’s the case, just keep using that same line: “I’m doing __. If you want to plan with me, let’s set up a time to do it together.” Depending on your personalities, you could also call him or her out on it a bit: laugh and say with a smile, “Wait a second, you’ve asked me that three times this week–I know you’re not trying to get me to do all your lesson planning for you! I’ll give you the activities, but you gotta take over recess duty for me.”

Figure out some way to lightly make it known that this needs to be a two-way street, and stick to your guns after that. If things start to get tense or awkward, ask your colleague outright to do something for you (“Okay, I’ll give you my plans…if you run my photocopies.”) That way it is a collaboration of some sort and not just you giving and them taking.

Scenario 2: Your co-workers want to hang around and chit chat, but you’ve got work to do

Bonding with your coworkers is important, so do set aside a designated time to socialize–maybe during your lunch break, or a weekly happy hour after school. However, it’s important from a work/life balance perspective not to let chatty coworkers prevent you from getting work done when you’re trying to concentrate. 20 minutes a day of getting cornered in the hallway after dismissal is an hour and a half of precious time that week which you could have used for something else.

So here’s a few practical suggestions to dissuade the chatterers from hanging around your room. If you have a window in your classroom door, move your desk or personal work space away from the door so that no one can see if you’re in the room before and after school. Keep the lights off and the door locked. That way if anyone comes by, they won’t see any signs that you’re there, and when they try the doorknob and discover it’s locked, they’ll give up.

If you’re concerned your administrators will think you’re arriving to school late and leaving early, put a sign on the door that says, “Please do not disturb–meetings and projects in progress” so they know you’re working, and take the sign down when you do actually leave for the day. Or, just use this strategy during your planning time when it’s obvious you’re still in the building.

An alternative is, of course, to work some place other than your room where you won’t be disturbed–maybe in a quiet corner of the library or another out-of-the-way place. If you have to have colleagues in the room with you during your planning time or break–perhaps if you have a push-in teacher or aide, or you share a classroom–put headphones on to signal that you’re not available to talk. You can use a white noise app to filter out distractions if you don’t want to listen to music.

When you find yourself stuck in a conversation, look for the first opportunity to politely bow out. Frame your exit in a way that makes it sound as if you’re being considerate of the other person’s time as well your own. Just say, “Well, I know you have a ton of stuff to do–I won’t hold you up. See you later!”

If there’s one or two people in particular who just don’t seem to get the hint, be direct with them. Make it sound like the problem is your own temptation to waste time (which is probably at least partially true!) so that your coworker doesn’t feel like this is a personal thing against him or her. Say, “My partner/spouse has been bugging me to come home earlier in the evenings, so I’m really trying to focus on work when I’m at school so I can get out of here on time. If you see me just hanging around and chatting, please remind me I told you this so I can stop myself and get back on track!”

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Scenario 3: A clique of teachers has pitted themselves against the rest of the staff, and if you’re not one of them, you’re either wrong or out of the loop

Teacher cliques are a really complex issue. But in general, when you feel sidelined by a group of teachers who don’t seem to like you, it’s important to conduct yourself in a way that puts you above approach.

If you want to have a voice and influence in the school but aren’t part of the clique, you need to be the consummate professional whom any rational person respects. When you have the reputation of being an outstanding, kind, innovative, dedicated teacher, you generally will have some pull and influence in the school, and most people will respect you even if you’re not part of the clique.

So basically, my advice is to focus on being a really good teacher. Focus on the kids. Focus on doing the job you’re called to do.

The people you work with don’t have to be your best friends. You don’t have to socialize with them. 90% of the time, you’re alone in your classroom with just your students, anyway. A situation with cliques is where the isolated nature of teaching actually works to your advantage. This sort of segues into the next scenario, which is when…

Scenario 4:  You don’t feel like you fit in with your co-workers and consequently feel isolated and alone

If you have just one good friend and ally in the school, that’s usually enough so that you won’t feel totally alone. Look for that one person you can count on and collaborate with, and stay focused on doing an amazing job for kids together.

Your main social group does not have to come from your coworkers–in fact, your “clique” might be a group of teachers you connect with online! Find your people, your tribe, wherever they are, and try to disconnect emotionally and mentally from the toxic dynamics in your school.

It’s really important to be patient in these situations. I taught at eight different schools in my teaching career, and in some of them I made very close friends within the first two months of school. At others, it took me two years to get beyond small talk and feel like anyone there had my back. In some schools, just about the whole staff felt like a family; in others, I felt like I could only relate to a handful of people. Know that it takes time to build relationships and connections, and don’t rush it.

And also know that that dynamics will change every single year as some teachers leave and others come in. Getting transferred to another grade level or another department can completely change things, too.

So if you’re feeling alone in your school, focus on finding that one person you can really connect with, and look for a larger group of teachers to build community with outside of your school, maybe online. Be patient. Be open. Be true to who you are, and trust that your outlook and perspective will draw the right people to you in time.

Scenario 5: Your colleagues are behind the times and refuse to change; they resist everything new you try and make it difficult to collaborate

This is another situation in which you want to remember that all your support does not have to come from your colleagues. That’s a bit like expecting your spouse to be your only sounding board for every problem. Don’t put that burden on just one person or one group of people. Broaden your personal learning community and connect with innovative teachers online and in other schools.

The last thing you want to do is focus on what your co-workers aren’t doing, because the moment they get the sense that you think you’re a better teacher than they are, you’re going to be shut out for real. It’s very important to be very positive and supportive not only to your colleagues’ faces, but also behind their backs and in your mind. Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. And if you’re constantly bemoaning how behind-the-times your colleagues are, that heart attitude IS going to come out whether you mean for it to or not.

So offer support and resources in small doses, but never make your colleagues feel less-than because they’re not ready for the new ideas you’re wanting to try. You want to get them curious about the change and feeling confident in themselves. When they feel empowered and understood and respected, they’re much more likely to leave their comfort zones.

In terms of creating real change in school culture…this is what I did as an instructional coach. My approach has always been to work with the change makers first. Get the innovators together and so they can do amazing things, and let the effects trickle down from there to the teachers who are interested but not sure where to start.

Once those who are on the fence hear about the results, some of them will willingly try it out, and then you’ve got a bigger group basically being evangelists for change. This will then trickle down to the teachers who are a little burned out but willing to try something new, and once you’ve got them on board, the momentum has shifted, You’ve created change within the school culture in which innovation is the norm and those who resist are on the outside looking in, welcomed to join the group at any time.

So, focus on the people who DO want to change. The best stuff in schools rarely happens from the top down. It’s generally grass roots stuff with passionate teachers individually doing amazing things in their classrooms, and their ideas spread. Sometimes they spread like wildfire, and sometimes it’s just a tiny spark. Be patient with your coworkers, be supportive, and inspire them to be their best.


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  1. Angela,
    I find you and Jennifer (?) from Cult of Pedagogy to be fantastic. You both resonate with me. You did an awesome job of addressing five tricky teacher coworker problems. Please keep up the good work. I would love to be like you, but I am probably twice your age. I have been teaching 13 years, I have my master’s degree in hopes of becoming an instructional coach, and I often feel alone, even though I know many others feel similar to me. I am near retirement, two years out, but coaching is something I would love to begin as a “fourth” career. I want to be like you!

  2. Angela,
    Fabulous advice. Everything you said is so well thought out. I am one of the old teachers now, and I try to be open to change with my younger co-workers. However, we can all learn from each other, too. Sometimes a seasoned teacher has good reasons why they are resistant to change because of past experiences and a familiarity with the school. I will try new things if they will make education more effective, efficient, and enjoyable! 🙂 I have used most of your above ideas to cope with tricky coworker problems in the 4 schools I’ve worked at in my 20+ years of teaching and they do work! Thanks for always looking out for us in the trenches!

  3. You suggest to build up online teaching networks for support. I’d like to know a bit more about how to get started. Are you suggesting blogs and podcasts or are there websites available so teachers interact/collaborate? And then, do you have recommendations for a teacher who is looking for new support? Thanks

    1. There are lots of great teacher groups on Facebook! I am a primary teacher, so I know of a K, 1, and 2 group, but I am sure there are other grade levels too. 🙂

    2. Some easy places to start are Mindshift, Edutopia, Cult of Pedagogy, and Angela’s stuff. To keep it very efficient, I follow them all on Facebook and read the articles that catch my attention. Angela’s Truth for Teachers podcast and Cult of Ped’s I’ve subscribed to on my phone and listen to each week. I think those sources could help any teacher of any age. Then I’d suggest you find the biggest Facebook group more specifc to your subject areas (I have 2ndary ELA and a Middle School Social Studies groups that I’ve joined to get specific searchable lesson materials). I follow them when I have time, and hide them when I don’t. I can always go search there for specific ideas on specific subjects when I need them, rather than feeling flooded when I’m already overwhelmed.

  4. As a veteran teacher, I am the chair or advisor for several organizations on campus..people often give lip service about wanting to serve on the committee and then have 100 excuses (if they even let you know) about not being able to participating on any level that spells involvement…it is like they want their name on a list,,,but no more. It falls to a small group over and over to carry off activities and other things. This is not directed at just ‘my committees’ ..but even our principal seems to have had this issue with some the other campus leader committees…….. I realize people are busy … But they are not the only ones! School no longer can end at the bell and ‘it takes a village’…..

    1. Hi Diann, I might have been that teacher you describe, back awhile ago, and can add my perspective. Some newer teachers are looking for their niche and also looking to broaden their perspectives. They might take on a commitment for the exposure and experience, but quickly find they are over-committed. It’s still a learning curve to balance their time, and to find the areas they are best suited to. I understand that doesn’t serve the needs of the committee or the project, but it’s part of growth for a teacher. Just saying… That’s bound to happen. But here’s what has happened most to me, in that process: senior committee members are so much more valuable, that it’s also hard to feel your own value on the committee. I’ve been that person who they talk over, interrupt, ignore and never use my ideas or give me a clearly defined area where I can take a role. So it goes from being challenged in my time management, to missing a meeting with a valid reason, to bring overwhelmed in my time management, to missing with more of an excuse, to not even letting them know. They won’t miss me and wouldn’t notice me if I WERE there. My value to the committee depreciates as my newness wears off and I just become irrelevant. The committee’s value to me depreciates as they ignore me, override me and I have no clear job to do. I love your comments as a senior member, a respected leader, someone who is needed. If you can make the underlings feel needed, they are more apt to stay, and become leaders, as well, eventually. 😉

  5. Love your article. I can relate and use some ideas. Here’s an angle to a colleague challenge you might give advice on… I have a great colleague and we work together. She makes awesome plans and ideas and is super-organized and structured. Here’s the catch. I have designed the entire course back when I taught it, and given her the materials when she was stuck teaching it after being away from it for awhile. This makes her life so much easier. She takes those projects and tests and improves them. I see that they are still about 80% my work, but her extra changes are fabulous!! However, she doesn’t offer them in return. But teaching the course comes back to me after I have been away from it, and I’d like to have her materials, which are mostly mine but tweaked. She’s not open to sharing. I’m pretty sure she knows her improvements are better and I agree, but she’s pretty closed about sharing. I mostly come to appreciate the extra questions and instructions she gives through the students. So we do collaborate and share, but then she goes and makes improvements that never come back to me. My role in this helps give her time to tweak rather than invent, but could it be that she uses it to become a better employee and have an advance over me in the end? She’s far more popular and respected. But she keeps most of my ideas, so they can’t be ALL BAD. What do you think?

    1. Karen, I feel your pain. I think you have great cooperation going on, until the point you mention. Try talking with her by telling her how much you appreciate her tweaks.

  6. Great episode. What suggestions do you have for paraprofessionals that are not innovative, negative and you (as the teacher) do not get the benefit of isolation when they are in your room throughout the whole day? I would like to hear more topics on management of people in your room, I.e. paraprofessionals or other team members and how to be a team leader. Thanks.

  7. Hi,

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading your fabulous article and it reminded me of one of my colleague.Thank you for such effective tricks.

  8. Hi Angela!
    This goes along with scenario 1…how do you handle grade-level teammates who expect you to freely share resources you’ve purchased (from TpT or teaching stores) and spent time to find? It’s difficult to constantly use the excuse that legally you can’t share it due to copyright. They also feel that they are generously sharing resources; however, said resources are super old freebies they received from someone else or are simply not resources I find useful.
    I get frustrated that I spend time, energy, and money and the effort is not reciprocated.

    1. Great question–and as a TpT seller, thank you for respecting copyright! At the end of this post, I shared some language you can use to explain why’re not comfortable sharing digital files you’ve purchased: https://truthforteachers.com/truth-for-teachers-podcast/teacher-authors-dont-give-everything-away-free-neither/.

      I understand the larger issue, though–that you’re putting in more time and effort than them, and have more to offer that they do. I wonder if any of the tips here would help you find a more equitable way to collaborate: https://truthforteachers.com/truth-for-teachers-podcast/6-ways-make-co-planning-lessons-efficient/

  9. What do you do when you work in a school where all your supervisors do not agree? This is the second school where this has happened and it very much stresses me out. This is about major ticket items like to curve or hold students to mastery, to report cheating or keep from parents, to teach the standards or teach less content and slower. This happened 2 years ago and it was so awful I quit teaching students I so loved to teach in a school where we were open and honest of issues and the principal held all to high standards and we all knew what was going on. It was wonderful but my husband was transferred to a different state. Now I am in the same situation – constantly guessing what to do and know that what I am led to do will differ depending on whom I ask – I find myself copying emails to all to prevent getting in trouble – just in general walking on eggshells all the time! And so now I am in the dog house with some, because when I hear others talk, complain, badmouth I am just open (like we were in last school) and suggest ways we can solve the problem. Trouble is no one wants to be open and admit we need to work on problems and differences – they just want to complain behind scenes. I would rather put it all on the table and reach a consensus. Others would rather tell principal what he wants to hear but do their own thing. Each teacher is an island here and I find myself just wanting to hide in my room this year as I search the want ads!

  10. Help! One colleague is discussing teachers with students. How do you cope? Openly goes against the rules just to be popular. Has the opion she helps the students. Screamed on principal and me in front of students. Please help how to handle her.

    1. This sounds like something your principal needs to address. Has there been a private conversation with admin about it? How does your principal respond to this colleague?

  11. Hi,
    I’m new to this site but I wish I knew about it before.It really feels good to know that the truth is that I’m not alone.
    I really would want you to give advise and directions on how to deal with a Principal who is proud and yet tries everytime to use your talent displayed under her name ?
    Looking forward to hearing from you.

  12. I have just been moved to fourth grade and am dealing with an arrogant male coworker who runs the show and wants everything done his way. I am truly sick of dealing with it. He has badmouthed me to the same parent twice, who I happen to be friends with. He is essentially a complete bully to me.

  13. I currently am experiencing situation 2 and it is extremely frustrating. My coworker actually unlocks my door, comes in and sits down. Never once has she asked if I’m busy. This has gone on for over two years and it drives me crazy. On top of this, most of the idle chat is gossip about other staff and students. It really starts my day off on a bad note. You would think she would have the decency to at least ask if I’m busy.

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